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If you’ve been thinking about booking a boudoir session, maybe you’ve also thought about losing weight first.

Let me stop you right there: you absolutely don’t need to. So many of my clients come in thinking that they have to be a certain size or shape to be beautiful. But as a plus size boudoir photographer in Portland, Oregon, I’m here to tell you—you’re already beautiful. You don’t need to lose weight to love yourself in photographs. Let’s dive into why.

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Why Losing Weight Won’t Automatically Make You Love Yourself More

Society has told us time and time again that a smaller body means a happier life. We’re flooded with ads, magazines, and social media influencers promoting “before and after” transformations and this idea that life just magically improves once you reach a certain weight. But let’s get real for a second—weight loss doesn’t equal self-love.

One of the biggest myths out there is that you’ll automatically feel more confident if you lose weight. As a boudoir photographer, I’ve had the privilege to work with women of all shapes and sizes. And you know what? Some of the most stunningly beautiful people who walk into my studio are the most self-conscious. No matter their size, they see flaws where I see strength, beauty, and resilience.

Loving yourself isn’t a number on a scale; it’s a mindset. Let’s start shifting that mindset now.

The Self-Love You Show Today Is True Self-Love

I came across a weight loss video recently, and someone commented, “This is the greatest display of self-love.” I had to respond because I found that so incredibly misguided. Self-love isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about loving who you are in this moment. When we tell ourselves that we’ll “love ourselves when we’re thinner,” we’re putting off real, genuine self-acceptance.

You don’t have to change to earn the right to love yourself. Actually, waiting to love yourself until you hit a certain weight often makes self-acceptance even harder. We become our own biggest critics, focusing on what we’re “not” rather than what we are.

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Why Plus Size Boudoir Sessions Are All About Celebrating You Now

If you’re worried about being photographed as a plus size person, let me assure you: plus size boudoir is all about celebrating the incredible person you are right now. My goal is to show you that you don’t need to be anyone else or look any different to be worthy of love, respect, and admiration. Boudoir sessions are about embracing your body, not changing it.

For every session, I work with my clients to help them feel their best. From customized poses to lighting that brings out your natural glow, I’m here to make sure that your session shows off the confident, powerful person you already are.

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Practical Tips for Cultivating Self-Love in Your Body Right Now

Changing how you see yourself can feel like a huge task, especially when society sends such mixed messages. But these small shifts can help:

• Daily Affirmations:

Repeating empowering phrases like “I am enough” and “I am worthy of love” might feel awkward at first, but it’s a great way to rewrite your inner script.

• Celebrate What Your Body Can Do

Instead of focusing on your body’s appearance, appreciate its strength, flexibility, and resilience.

• Surround Yourself with Positivity

Join communities that support self-love and body positivity. My Facebook group, the Foxfire Vixen Society, is a welcoming space where women uplift and encourage each other. We’re all about supporting each other to be our best, most authentic selves.

Why Plus Size Boudoir Isn’t About “Fixing” Anything—It’s About Celebrating Everything

There’s no better time to celebrate your body than right now. Boudoir isn’t about hiding behind filters or editing away the parts of yourself that make you unique. It’s about creating a safe, loving environment to celebrate who you are today. You deserve to feel beautiful, to feel seen, and to feel celebrated exactly as you are.

My job as a plus size boudoir photographer is to highlight your unique beauty. I’m here to show you that every curve, scar, and freckle tells a story that deserves to be celebrated. We live in a world that’s constantly telling us to change; in my studio, we embrace who we are.

Stop Putting Off Living Your Life

So many of us put our lives on hold while we “wait” to become someone else. We wait to wear the outfits we love, book that dream vacation, or even get in front of the camera. But the truth is, life is happening right now, and we owe it to ourselves to enjoy every single second.

The biggest act of self-love is accepting yourself fully and unconditionally. Don’t spend another second of your precious life waiting to become “enough” in someone else’s eyes. You are enough right now.

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Why “Do It Fat” Is the Motto We’ve Been Waiting For

I came across a quote recently that said, “DO IT FAT.” It stopped me in my tracks because, even as someone who promotes body positivity, I sometimes feel that pressure to change myself. But here’s the thing: your life doesn’t begin when you’re a certain size. You deserve to live it now—exactly as you are.

The “Do It Fat” mantra is all about doing the things you want, without waiting to change your body. Want to wear that swimsuit? Wear it. Dreaming of a boudoir shoot? Book it. It’s about letting go of the idea that only certain bodies deserve beautiful experiences.

A Boudoir Session Can Help You Start That Journey of Self-Love

If you’ve been thinking about booking a boudoir session, you’re not just booking photos—you’re starting a journey. This is a journey of self-love, acceptance, and celebration. A journey that allows you to see yourself through a compassionate, loving lens. Whether it’s your first time or your fifth, each session will reveal a new layer of who you are and help you appreciate it.

When you’re ready to take that step, I’m here for you at Foxfire Boudoir in Portland. I’ll guide you, support you, and make sure that you feel incredible in every single shot. No weight loss required. Just you, your beautiful self, and a celebration of everything that makes you unique.

So why wait? A Plus size boudoir session is the exact same as a straight-sized session—and boudoir is never about changing yourself. It’s about seeing, acknowledging, and celebrating yourself as you are right now today.. And if you’re ready to start that journey of self-love, let’s chat about how a boudoir session can be the perfect beginning. ✨

Do it fat. 💛

Feel free to join our community in the Foxfire Vixen Society, where we celebrate every woman, every size, every story. Let’s create something beautiful—just as you are. 🖤